Get what you want in life after these 9 steps
Set yourself up to get what you want out of life with this nine-step mindset.
Getting whatever you want is possible if only you draw a path towards it. We are all born with the same abilities and possibilities.
Any problem or situation we come up against can be solved if we put ourselves in a mindset to succeed.
This post has 9 keys to get you in the mindset of getting what you want out of life.
1) Be honest about where you are.
This is important because if you don’t identify your problems, you will never know how to solve them. The reason why most people spend their life stuck is that they run from the truth and never give themselves a chance to move on and transform their lives.
You have to know where you are to have clarity on where you want to be.
You can do this with three questions:
A. How do I feel every day in my life?
B. Are my goals and values reflected in my life?
C. If I keep going this way, will I be proud of my future?
2) Stop the victim mentality
You need to stop the victim mentality or you will fail to launch in life. Forever. Stopping the victim mentality is essential to getting what you want because it is the foundation to taking action. If you refuse to take responsibility in your life, you will have no confidence or hope. Without either of these, you won’t be able to take the action you need.
You stop the victim mentality by realizing that you have a choice. Mentally go throughout your life to turning points and think about the choices you could have made. Also, you can think about your everyday life and all the little choices you make every second. You’ll realize that with so many choices, there is no way you can be a victim.
This will give you the power to make better choices and get what you want and deserve out of life.
3) Forgive and believe you can change
This is where most people fail by cutting themselves off before they even start. Forgiving yourself and believing you can change is important to getting what you want because it is the fuel that powers the first step. That first step along the journey to success has to be emotionally clear and solid or nothing will work and the person will rebound.
You forgive yourself and open yourself up to get what you want by showing yourself compassion. Here is an example:
A. Allow yourself to feel the shame and regret you’ve stuffed down for years. Validate your feelings and stop stuffing them down.
B. Say to yourself: “You were doing the best you could at the time. I forgive you.”
C. Resolve never to do that again and make a decision.
4) Work on self-identity
This is important because of the way the human mind works. Tony Robbins says “The human mind will always stay in alignment with who it believes itself to be.” You can try to push and blindly motivate yourself, but this will only take you so far. When you change your self-identity, it is much easier to drop the habits, beliefs, and thoughts that work against that theory.
The first way to get a new self-identity is to hold a vision of who you want to be in your mind. Write down the characteristics of this person, their values, and their habits. Use that list as a template for how you go about your everyday life. This new identity is the key to getting what you want out of yourself and out of life.
5) Confront limiting beliefs
Confronting limiting beliefs is important because they are the walls within your subconscious that uphold all of the self-sabotaging thoughts blocking you from getting what you want. These limiting beliefs are often adopted unknowingly through childhood and traumatic experiences. Getting what you want is only going to happen if you let go of the beliefs that are attacking your confidence and self-worth to move forward.
You identify and confront limiting beliefs by asking yourself any of these three questions:
A. If I was [your goal] what would I have to believe about myself? Does that clash with who I am now?
B. Do I really deserve to get what I want, why? Or why not?
C. If I achieve [your goal] what am I afraid might happen?
6) Don’t listen to nay-sayers
I am not saying to block people out, but don’t let their opinions throw off your vision for what you want. Often it is the people closest to you who will try to diminish you getting what you want and throw you off. Your vision probably makes them uncomfortable they want to bring you down to make themselves feel better. Not listening to them is the only way to get what you want and stay on the path to your goals.
You stop listening to others by making yourself the most important person in your own life. This doesn’t mean you don't care about others. This just means that how you feel is more important than anyone else. Easy ways to start this are self-care routines and habits that align with your morals and goals.
7) Make a clear vision of the solution.
Your brain needs a clear path of action to know how to think and perform. A clear vision is needed to draft goals, develop habits, or achieve any significant milestones. Also, a clear vision will pull you towards taking consistent action and discipline towards getting what you want.
A very impactful way to do this is through Vision Boards. The process of making a Vision Boards is not only fun but makes an impression on your brain and your physical mind. It makes your dream transform from a cool goal to a real destination with metrics, details, and measurable evidence. It will feel more real than ever before. Getting what you want will be so much easier if you know the details of what it looks and feels like.
Conclusion
Mindset is the only way to execute and take consistent action towards getting what you want from life. With the seven-part mindset above taking action will be a breeze. You will be able to transform, get out of your own way, and crush any obstacle in your path with ease.
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